Saturday, 16 March 2013

Gone Gone Gone She's Been Gone So Long


Well, today is the day...

After months of saying, I don't think I'm so pissed off anymore, poof, I allow the anger in...and it feels great, because it's necessary!!!

Now, don't get me wrong, I believe in being polite when polite is necessary...but nutters and their laissez faire attitude about the death and lifelong disfiguring of children their pits cause don't deserve polite.  

A short time after my child was disfigured by a piece of shit pit, I discovered many things.  Firstly I discovered that my son is made up of some powerful stuff, even with a massive open wound on his face and holes in his throat and along his lash line, he found ways to still be a kid!  To this day, he still remembers where the microwave in the ER department is located, and waking up from the drugs that kept him sleeping while the surgeons closed him up (he jokes about feeling weird)  but he doesn't remember the ride to the hospital, and that includes the words of the pit owner who openly asked what my little guy did to provoke the dog (my first taste of blaming the victim) yup, it happened right in front of my little guy, whose skin was an odd colour because of shock, who was wrapped up in towels to help keep that side of his face together, who had tears streaming down his face, whose face was swelling up as quickly as we sped to the hospital, yup, way to go you POS!!!

And for as shocking as all that was, I figured it was isolated, after all, we were dealing with the fool that would likely be held responsible for what his dog did, perhaps a reaction to those thoughts were what drove stupid ass comments...right???  Well, we all know the answer to that, pit owners are all cut from the same cloth aren't they?

Once we knew he'd be ok, like a dog with a bone, I dove into figuring out who else was out there, victim wise and support wise.  During that time, I discovered we weren't alone, and that provided both some comfort but also added some fuel to my anger.  Because along with discovering some truly dedicated to this cause souls, I found that the nutters treated every victim the same way they treated us, with callous disregard, and with a level of repellent hate I thought was only reserved for the utter dregs of society.  And that level of hate is applicable to all victims, whether the child survives the attack or not...

For me, a turning point in how I "allowed" myself to feel about nutters was validated the day I become one who said I could call Craven a friend.  The no fucking nonsense, no sugar coating, cut to the quick, researched words of Craven sat so very well within me.   Through Craven we see the true side of who we deal with, what they are capable of, and what they will say and do in their efforts to continue to put us all at risk with what they choose to leash, or let roam neighbourhoods.  For a short while after what our son went through, some of the videos posted on Craven I couldn't watch, the attacks were just too much.  But now when I watch them, I can be thankful for what didn't happen, instead of dwelling on what did.

Enter  Craven's latest blog entry.  I blogged about the little one killed by pits (the one Craven refers to) but now, because of the skills liken to someone working in forensics, we can read about the peripheral, what went on before, and after a child was murdered by a babysitter's choice.  

I've given up wondering why the act like they do, it's useless to try and figure it out.  

Thank you Craven, for being so incredibly diligent, and for giving a shit!!!

http://cravendesires.blogspot.ca/2013/03/everyone-loves-train-wreck.html

9 comments:

  1. Craven Desires is awesome--one of my favorite places to hang out on the internet. I go for the blog articles and stay for the cool commentariat.

    She helped me out with a scumbag recently, too.

    Hope you and your family are doing well!

    Margo

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  2. i am so much more comfortable with criticism than praise. but what nice things to say. thank you.

    one of these days anne, we will get together for coffee or tea or both.

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  3. i too found a refuge from the idiots and the assholes and their psycho-comments . it felt like coming home after visiting a ward for the criminally insane .

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  4. i know what you mean when you say youve given up wondering about the nutters and why they are like they are. i like to think they are just whack-jobs and leave it at that . i dont even think they are capable of rational thought , even as psychopaths. id sooner try to reason with one of their dogs ,from the past , for all the good it would do . i do think that some people are evil and that its possible to come close to breeding evil in a breed of dog , and that its really no mystery why some people like these dogs .

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  5. The latest post on Craven is magnificent.

    I forget how I stumbled upon Craven the first time, but it was so amazing to me to find such a brilliant group people who knew the truth about this kind of dog and were doing their best to make sure others did also.

    The only thing as revolting and repugnant as pit bulls is their owners and promoters.

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  6. their hypocrisy makes me sick...we ask for our children not to be around pits, and we are ignorant haters, we allow our kids around them, the worst happens, and poof almighty, its our fault for not supervising...as far as evil goes, evil in my most humble opinion isn't about what could be up above or down below, it's an attitude...and yup, they are evil, with their lack of empathy and compassion as they choose that breed...they must love how society balks at them, gives the fragility of their egos some sick kind of boost...it's gotta be the only explanation...me, I get my ego boost from how my son has pulled through this...he's the stuff!!!

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  7. I can't believe that upon hearing that pitwit ask what your son did you had the control to NOT beat him until a sponge was needed to pick him up off the ground. If I was there I might have put him in the ambulance too. There's just no excuse for this level of ignorance except psychopathy.

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  8. I know Anon...I was in shock I think...I tell anyone I can now about what the pitwit said now though, so everyone knows what makes up the mentality, or lack there of...btw, I've never heard the term pitwit, I like it! A whole bunch as a matter of fact!!!!!!!

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  9. Lack of empathy is a CLASSIC sign of sociopathy/psychopathy (same thing, sociopathy is the modern term): http://www.livestrong.com/article/96175-characteristics-sociopaths/

    Arrogance, lying, lack of remorse/guilt/conscience/empathy, irresponsibility, aggression; classic description of a pit nutter.

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